Small troubles act on nerves and take away energy. Just wave your hand, otherwise
they can grow into big problems. You can change the attitude towards them using the technique that the psychotherapist Jonathan Robinson offers.
If your life is like mine, every week presents new misfortunes. Mostly nothing serious, in trifles. It is found that it is necessary to change the car muffler, the back begins to ache again. Sometimes everything is not the way you want, but you need to learn how to cope with small troubles, without losing his self -control.
They say that no matter what happens, you have to stay on the positive. It sounds good, but for real life, full fuss and stress, is impossible. I wish you to learn to disconnect the thoughts that are out of the rut with one click. Also, the task is not easy. Fortunately, there is such a method – simple and effective, so it works even for lazy people, like me. It is called “Search for the good in everything”.
A couple of years ago, I gave a lecture on how everything that at first oppresses could turn out for the better. The student came up during the break and said that he had something in the car for me. While he was digging in the cabin, I gradually boiled because he lost precious time. Whenever he was trying to escape to the audience, he exclaimed: “Wait! It seems to have found “. But, alas, not that. In the end, I’m tired of it, I turned around and left. As soon as he opened the door, about a hundred people skipped: “Surprise!”Yesterday was my birthday, and almost all friends gathered to arrange a holiday for me.
It was a very instructive experience: I just ranted a might and main about how to consider positive in the vicissitudes of fate, and I myself was nakedly pierced. The main thing came to me: in order to remain calm in difficult circumstances, it is necessary to invent clear technology.
The idea is cool, but when the ears are stuck, it does not get easier from it. In this regard, I began to try different methods. Most of them failed, but one has passed the strength test. When troubles happen, I ask myself: “What is good about it?”Even if I do not believe in a prosperous outcome, from each problem you can always extract at least two valuable conclusions. Difficulties teach compassion, patience, humility and faith.
“What is so good about it?” – an extremely useful question. He not only distracts from gloomy thoughts, but also helps to detect hidden advantages. Any growth, personal or professional, begins with the fact that we are faced with problems and turn them into the possibilities. When the question is asked sincerely, it turns out to quickly come to life. Accurate answers are not necessarily giving. To calm down, it is enough to come up with a few favorable scenarios of the development of events. When something upset us, we do not see anything around, except for annoying surprise, and lose the ability to sanity.